If you would have told that girl, at this time last year, that she would and could be happy again, she wouldn't have believed you. But that girl believes you now. Amazing what a year can do to heal your soul. I can't remember what he looks like anymore. Other than my dogs and chickens I left behind, there's nothing about my previous married life that I miss. I sure don't miss him. My life is so peaceful and quiet. It's almost dang perfect. And I've recently met a new fella who I've been dating and getting to know. He's sweet and kind and kisses me on the fore head when he hugs me. We go to diners and some times he slurps his coffee when he drinks it, which makes me laugh. I use to catch such hell for slurping my tea around someone in my past life. Now I look across the table and laugh...life sure is funny...imagine getting upset just because someone makes a slurping sound when they drink something hot. I'm so lucky to be sitting on the other side of that table, across from someone, who some times, slurps their coffee too.
I've been really buying up the vintage Christmas decorations when I've been finding it at auction for a good price lately. I'm a bit obsessed you might say. Not as bad as some but worse than others.
I've been adding all my new goodies to my old goodies! My goal is to once again craft some super awesome vintage Christmas wreaths this year! Making wreaths last year was the last fun thing I did in Jersey, cuz shortly after my crafty fun, the shit hit the fan...no shit will be hitting the fan this year, cuz this year, it's all about the crafty fun and not about someone else's fucked up drama!
And since I'm feeling nostalgic for my drama free Christmases past, how about some fun kitschy Christmas shots of yours truly from back in the day...what a young sassy lassy I be!
....in a little house named DeluxeVille surrounded by five fabulous cats and lots of her favorite things! I apologize in advance to all the little girls out there, no knight in shining armor in this fairy tale, just awesome little MaryDeluxe saving herself!
Don't ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You're responsible for your own happiness. Anyone who wants you to live in misery for their happiness should not be in your life to begin with.
If you don't like where you are, then change it....
...you are not a tree.
"If you don't make the time to work on creating the life you want, you're eventually going to be forced to spend a LOT of time dealing with a life you don't want."
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Strive to be happy.
I will not let my inner peace be disturbed my the confusions around me. I will be gentle and tolerant, while maintaining my right to my individuality. I will listen and appreciate, and not judge the source of what I hear.
Yes, you read the title right...I have had my first date since leaving Mr. A.S.S.Y. and regaining my freedom and my sanity. Yes, please congratulate me because this was a really big deal in my little world. It wasn't an uncomfortable thing for me to do at all, since I've been getting to know this fella in a friendly way all Summer. When he finally moved things in that direction, it wasn't a completely terrifying thought, because I knew I always had fun being in his company. But if you would have asked me about dating last December-April...I would have told you to go fuck yourself, because I was never gonna do that again. But here it is September and I'm whistling a different tune. That's where the really big deal part comes in. Go me!!
So, I know you are all just dying to know how my Saturday night date went?! Well, the whole date was great but my three favorite parts were 1. locking him out of the car and laughing while he was pumping gas as I sat inside the car ( oh yes, I'm evil) 2. holding his hand 3. the way he kissed me goodnight. What?? Were you expecting me to say...the food?? :)
Then he left and I proceeded to have a good, short cry in the shower. It wasn't that I was sad or upset, I just never in my life thought I would be where I am. You see, I'm a very loyal kind of girl.... and even though I'm legally separated, working on my divorce, and haven't seen Mr. A.S.S.Y. since March, it still felt a little weird. It just felt like I did something really, really bad...and then I realized it was really, really fun and I would love to do something really, really fun again on another date! Go me!!
I know you're all thinking, Wow MaryD, that sounds great!! But wait a sec because I haven't gotten to the part where I run away yet! And yes, there is that part to tell. You see, through a few text message exchanges later that week, my "friend" that I went on the date with, disclosed that he has 2 ladies he "talks to" to kill the time as he waits for his "keeper" girl. But one of them he was getting ready to "kick to the curb" because she was nothing but "drama". Can you say OUCH! Can you say stomach twisted into a knot. Can you say flash back to December 6, 2013, when I read some text messages that made me feel the same way, just more in a "hey my fucking life as I know it is over and I might as well walk out into a snow bank, close my eyes, and just go to sleep" kinda way. Then I just let myself sit with that uncomfortable feeling all day. I thought well, at least he told me, he could have easily just hide it from me, but I do wish he would have told me before the date, before I let myself like him. So, now what do I do? Do I want to be the number "3" girl he "talks to" to kill the time as he waits for his "keeper" girl? Do I want to get "kicked to the curb" when I annoy him to much? My answer... NO, I FUCKING DON'T....if I wanted to be that to someone, I would have stayed married to Mr. A.S.S.Y.
So what did MaryD do? She pulled the bell and got of the bus! This is the part where I run away!! Yes, I feel sad and disappointed but I also feel kinda glad, because I learned something really important by knowing him. I discovered my love for myself again. It's still there people!! I deserve someone that protects my feelings, that thinks it's great just seeing me and isn't worried about what else might be out there that's better! I'm irreplaceable and some day some one is going to realize that...and it's gonna be when they have me and not when I'm gone! And I'm gonna love locking him out of the car and laughing when he's pumping gas, holding his hand, and kissing him good night too...but the best part is, he'll feel the exact same way about me too!
So, that's the story of my first date. Everyone has a life to live and everyone can choose to live it anyway they want to. I'm not here to judge anyone. At another point in my life, maybe I would have been okay with sharing and being someone's "something to do" but at the place I'm at now and with what I've been through, I'm just not. And that's okay too!
All fun cartoons borrowed from.....Comically Vintage
P.S. Dear lawyers the definition of the Acronym Mr. A.S.S.Y. means Mr. Assembly because he liked to put things together....yup that's exactly what that means no need to send a letter! :)
You were an amazing time of year for me once again. I can always count on Summer to re-energize my spirit and send me off in new creative directions. No other season gives me the wonderful mental boost quite like Summer does. Summer I will miss you!
I grew Veggies and ate my veggies and shared my veggies!!
I road my bike!
I fell in love with a few tractors.
I lost something I will never be able to replace.
He was the best thing that has ever happened in my life.
I bought stuff I didn't need just for fun!
I glowed...I nested....I rested....I met new friends...I hung out with old friends...I spent time with myself....I licked my wounds and healed my soul just a bit more...I spent time with my family.... I gave and got lots of hugs...I let go...I laughed more than I cried (even though I cried for days)... I remembered how to love...I grieved my losses...I proclaimed that all this me time is absolutely awesome...I got a new nickname from a special fella....I jumped through flaming hoops of fire...(okay just kidding I didn't really do that)...I did however start running again (slow like a turtle but I'm moving so who cares turtles are cute!)
Thank you Summer you came along just when I needed you! See ya next year Summer!!
The Tiki Gods were smiling on me at auction last weekend and I got to come home with two very awesome wooden carved tikis. They look fab hanging out in the garden by the fish pond. I can't say I've ever run across wooden carved tikis at auction before, so this was quite the find. The son of the family said his Father spent a lot of time on vacation in Key West, so I'm guessing they might have come from there? Where ever they came from, I plan to enjoy them for a long while!
The veggie gardens have been doing great and as you can see above, giving us lots of yummy colorful produce!
I still have not finished painting Deluxeville and it still remains a sea of boring beige. As you can see, I did start removing plaster from the wall behind my stairs. Removing plaster is a very messy pain in the butt. My progress has been slow. I refer to this eye sore as my wall of shame! What can I say, just like my life, my wall is also a work in progress. But I am most certain that very shortly my wall will be finished and so will a certain chapter in my book of life! I'm looking forward to finishing them both and getting some color back into my life!
If you live anywhere remotely close to The Gatchellville Store and haven't yet visited...well then, not much more for me to say other then you have no idea what you are missing! Seriously!! Really!! I mean come on...do I need to rent a bus and go pick everyone up? I can do that if you want but you're going to have to help me pay for the bus!
Now, if you have been a faithful DeluxeVille reader, you will remember my first visit to the store back in 2009...The Gatchellville Store Adventure, yeah I know my post titles are so original! Well, I'm happy to report it's gotten even better! I didn't think it was possible...they proved me wrong!
"With over 6000 square feet, The Gatchellville Store has a bit of something for everyone.
Created by husband and wife, Carroll Swam and Linda Sarubin, and
combining their vastly different collecting tastes, ( his, country..and
hers, city ), the store is the kind of place you can lose yourself in
for hours at a time, just wandering among the thousands of interesting
items. Country furniture, vi...ntage
musical instruments, old books, unusual ephemera, pottery,
advertising...the town's old post office, circa 1900, is filled with
Carroll's impressive collection of antiques tools.
interests run towards jewelry, textiles, and a world class collection of
thousands and thousands of vintage and antique buttons. Circa 1850 -
1950. Two little dogs sit in thrones in the center of the store,
ordering customers to pet them, while bluegrass-and blues-music plays
By the way, The Gatchellville Store began its life
around the time of the Civil War when a Union solider named Mathew
McCall came home from the war to set up a mercantile and dry goods
business in Gatchellville. He was only 19 years of age....and now
almost 150 years later, Mr. McCall's Name is still on the stained glass
transom above the front door.
When Linda and Carroll bought the
store in 2002, it had been closed since the 1940s. They are the 4th
owners to operate the store since the Civil War."
So, what did MaryDeluxe find this time at Gatchellville? I'm sure this is the question you are all pondering at this very moment...ok just humor me and pretend like it was! Well kiddos, I went with this wonderful barkcloth fabric. As a person who use to design fabric back in another one of my life times, I really like vintage textiles! A LOT! I really like mixing them together too...textures, colors, and patterns...makes no difference to me.
To continue with my theme of textile purchases, I also grabbed this old rainbow rag runner while I was there! Love the colors and after cutting off the bad ends, was a perfect fit for my kitchen!
Later that evening we christened the rug with popcorn treats and hairballs! I had nothing to do with the hairball part of that equation!
In other fun news...if you want to follow me on IG you can find me as some of you already know under _MaryDeluxe_ !